Month: January 2026

Creating happiness: dinner with a friend brightened my day 

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Some days seem to start off on the wrong foot, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and disheartened. This morning was one of those days for me. Disappointment seemed to follow me like a shadow, and I found myself wishing I could just crawl back into bed and hide from the world. It’s amazing how quickly negativity can creep in and cloud your perspective, making everything feel heavy.

As I navigated through a series of frustrating events—a stressful  appointment, a misunderstood task , and a particularly dreary morning—I couldn’t shake the feeling of wanting to retreat into my own little bubble. It’s easy to get caught up in those moments, letting them define your day.

In the midst of all this, I realized that I couldn’t just wait for my friends to reach out to me. Sometimes, you have to take the initiative. So, I decided to invite Natasha, my friend from high school, out for dinner. The idea of heading out was both enticing and daunting; I hesitated but reminded myself that reaching out could lead to something meaningful.

Stepping into the restaurant, I was instantly enveloped by the warm ambiance and the enticing aroma of delicious food. As we settled into our seats, the initial heaviness that had weighed on me began to lift. Instead of reminiscing about the past, we dove into conversations about the exciting things happening in our lives right now, especially our shared passion for crafting.

With every story about our latest projects and ideas, I could feel my spirits rising. It was a refreshing reminder of the joy that companionship brings, a feeling I had been neglecting during my solitary days. In that moment, I felt lighter, freer, and truly happy—probably happier than I had been in a long time.

Reflecting on this experience, I realized how important it is to take the initiative in friendships. When you spend too much time alone, it’s easy to lose sight of the joy that comes from connecting with others. Natasha’s presence reminded me just how enriching friendships can be, especially when you share interests and passions.

I am genuinely thankful for the friendships I have. They are the threads that weave joy into the fabric of my life. Each connection is a reminder that, even during the toughest days, there’s always a reason to smile and a friend to share it with.

So, if you ever find yourself in a dark place, remember that reaching out to a friend can turn your day around. Life is far too short to isolate ourselves during difficult times. Cherish those connections, and don’t hesitate to make plans. You never know how a simple dinner can transform your outlook and lift your spirits.

Navigating Grief in our Community : a Reflection on Loss and Bitterness 

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In today’s world, we often find ourselves grappling with the impacts of loss. Recently, two significant deaths in my community have profoundly affected how we engage with one another. My uncle’s wife, Stacy’s mother, Charlene, passed away, as did my neighbor Mary’s husband, Carl. These losses have left a palpable sense of bitterness, overshadowing our interactions and making it challenging to find joy in everyday life.

The Loss of Charlene and Carl

  • Charlene’s Influence: Charlene was not just a mother, but a beacon of light. I have been told her kindness and love touched many lives. Her passing (I have been told)has left a void that many feel deeply.
  • Carl’s Legacy: Similarly, Carl was known for his generosity and spirit. My family knew and loved him. We didn’t necessarily know his wife, Mary, but we loved both of them as a unit. His absence is keenly felt by Mary and all who knew him.
  • Their deaths have sparked conversations about how we cope with grief and its ripple effects on our community.

The Ripple Effect of Grief

The deaths of Charlene and Carl have led to a noticeable shift in the atmosphere around us. People seem more apathetic, and kindness appears to be in short supply. This bitterness can manifest in various ways:

  • Increased Tension: Small disagreements escalate more easily, and interactions often lack the warmth they once had.
  • Isolation: Many individuals retreat into themselves, avoiding social gatherings that were once a source of joy and connection.

Scriptural Insights

The Bible offers wisdom on dealing with loss and bitterness. Here are a couple of verses that resonate in times of grief:

  • Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 (NIV): “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” This passage reminds us that mourning is a natural process and that allowing ourselves to grieve is essential.
  • Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV): “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger… Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” This encourages us to combat bitterness with kindness, even when it feels difficult.

The Importance of Community Support

During times of loss, community plays a crucial role in healing. Here are some ways we can support each other:

  • Open Dialogue: Encourage conversations about grief. Sharing memories of Charlene and Carl can help keep their spirits alive and foster connection.
  • Acts of Kindness: Small gestures, such as cooking meals or offering a listening ear, can go a long way in showing support and love.

Reflecting on Our Outlook

While loss can lead to bitterness, it can also serve as a catalyst for growth. Acknowledging our grief allows us to process our emotions and reconnect with our shared humanity.

  • Finding Joy Again: It’s crucial to remember that joy can coexist with sorrow. Engaging in community activities, remembering the deceased fondly, and supporting each other can gradually restore a sense of hope.

Conclusion

The deaths of Charlene and Carl have undeniably impacted our community, revealing how grief can lead to bitterness. However, through shared remembrance, kindness, and the wisdom of scripture, we can navigate this difficult period together. As we honor their memories, let’s strive to cultivate love and compassion, reminding ourselves that every season, including mourning, is a part of our shared human experience.

The Nature of Human Relationships

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The Disheartening Reality of Cruelty Among Christians: The Case of the Latier Family

In a world where love and compassion should be the guiding principles of faith, it is disheartening to observe how some Christians treat fellow believers with cruelty and disdain. This troubling behavior not only undermines the core tenets of Christianity but also paints a negative picture of the faith as a whole. My personal experience with the Latier family, my ex-in-laws, serves as a poignant example of this issue.

A Personal Encounter with the Latiers

Having tried to maintain a polite and respectful relationship with the Latiers, I found myself facing a wall of hostility and judgment instead. Despite my efforts to engage in kind and courteous interactions, they persistently responded with coldness and disdain. This experience has left me reflecting on the disconnection between their professed beliefs and their actions, particularly in light of the teachings of Christ.

The Contrast Between Words and Actions

The actions of the Latiers starkly contrast with the Christian values of love, kindness, and forgiveness. In 1 John 4:20, we read, “If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen.” This scripture highlights the hypocrisy of claiming to be a follower of Christ while failing to show love and respect to fellow believers.

When the Latiers engage in cruel behavior towards me and others, it not only harms the individuals involved but also tarnishes the reputation of Christianity itself. It becomes increasingly difficult for outsiders to see the beauty of Christ’s message when they witness such discord among those who claim to follow Him.

The Call for Kindness

The Bible is replete with calls for kindness and compassion. Ephesians 4:32 instructs us, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” This passage emphasizes that kindness is not merely a suggestion but a directive for all Christians. In my interactions with the Latiers, I have attempted to embody this principle, even in the face of hostility.

However, their refusal to reciprocate this kindness raises questions about the authenticity of their faith. When Christians are unkind to one another, it reveals a troubling disconnect between their beliefs and their actions.

Reflecting on Community and Unity

The body of Christ is meant to be a community defined by love and support. Romans 12:10 encourages believers to “be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” This call to honor one another is foundational to a thriving Christian community. Yet, when cruelty and division take precedence, the essence of this community is lost.

The Impact of Cruelty on Faith

The consequences of such behavior extend beyond individual relationships. When Christians treat each other poorly, it creates an environment of distrust and bitterness, driving wedges between believers. This is particularly troubling as Jesus emphasized the importance of unity among His followers. In John 13:35, He stated, “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” Our love for one another serves as a testament to our faith, and when that love is absent, it diminishes the witness of the Church in the world.

The Latiers: A Case Study in Cruelty

The Latiers exemplify this troubling trend. Despite identifying as Christians, their actions showcase a profound lack of compassion and understanding. They have shown me that cruelty can sometimes masquerade as righteousness, leading to a harmful environment that contradicts the very essence of what it means to follow Christ. Their behavior has been a stark reminder of how far some can stray from the teachings of Jesus.

Moving Towards Reconciliation

It is crucial for Christians to recognize the harm caused by unkindness and to seek reconciliation. This involves not only apologizing for past wrongs but actively working towards a more loving and supportive community. Colossians 3:12-14 reminds us to “clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” These qualities should permeate our interactions, especially with those who share our faith.

Conclusion

The cruelty exhibited by some Christians, such as the Latiers, towards their fellow believers is a disappointing reality that contradicts the very essence of the faith. My experiences with them have reinforced my understanding of the need for love, kindness, and unity within the Christian community. As we continue to strive for a more authentic expression of our faith, let us remember the words of Jesus and commit ourselves to love one another genuinely. Only then can we reflect the true nature of Christ and make a positive impact on the world around us.

This call to kindness and compassion is not merely a suggestion; it is fundamental to the Christian faith. Let us choose love over hate, kindness over cruelty, and unity over division, for in doing so, we honor God and one another.

Finding Humor and Insight on the Road: A Journey of Kindness

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Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons, often when we least expect them. Recently, I decided to embrace positivity, even amidst the storm of challenges swirling around me. I mean, who doesn’t love a good plot twist? So, buckle in as I share my weekend road trip to Toledo, complete with bathroom compliments, unexpected rides, and a sprinkle of divine intervention.

A Clean Bathroom and a Compliment

First stop: the gas station restroom. You know, the unsung hero of road trips. It was clean—not fancy, but clean—and I felt compelled to share my appreciation with the attendant, who, let’s be honest, probably hears more complaints than compliments. Her face lit up like a Christmas tree, and in that moment, I realized that spreading positivity doesn’t always need a grand gesture. Sometimes, it’s as simple as a kind word.

And let’s face it, when you’re navigating life’s messiness, a clean bathroom can feel like a little slice of heaven.

A Ride with a Twist

Another weekend adventure: I encountered a young woman in her twenties who needed a ride. Now, I know what you’re thinking: “Stranger danger!” But something in me decided to throw caution to the wind. As we drove, she shared her struggles, and I revealed my own recent mishap—losing $1,000. Cue the tears, right? But here’s the kicker: instead of wallowing, we exchanged hope and laughter, like two unexpected allies in a comedy sketch.

Before she hopped out, I offered to pray with her. I may not be a model of perfection, but I’m no stranger to faith. As I prayed, I felt like a stand-up comedian trying to deliver a punchline in a heartfelt way. She thanked me, and I drove off thinking, “Maybe God is up there chuckling at our little detour.”

A $10 Blessing

The next day, I stopped at Goodwill hunting for DVDs for my son, Noah, who loves anything that dances and sings. While browsing, I made a joke about how surprised I was that a younger guy knew what DVDs were. It was light banter, but then he handed me $10 to buy DVDs for Noah. My initial reaction was to decline out of pride, but then I thought, “Why not accept this tiny nugget of kindness?”

Losing $1,000 stung, but that $10 felt like a million bucks—a reminder that kindness often comes back around, even if it’s not in the form we expect.

Praying for Enemies (Seriously?)

On the radio, I heard a message about praying for our enemies. Now that’s a tough pill to swallow! It’s easy to love those who love us back, but what about the ones who throw shade? I chuckled at the idea of getting “revenge” tattooed on my arm instead of Proverbs 11:10 (…when the wicked perish, there are shouts of joy). I mean, who doesn’t love a bit of irony?

But seriously, it’s a powerful reminder. Hatred and resentment are exhausting. They weigh us down like a bag of bricks, while kindness lifts us up like a helium balloon. I felt proud to declare that I’d rather celebrate the defeat of negativity than dwell on my own grievances.

Connection at Walmart

Finally, during a pit stop at Walmart, I struck up a conversation with an employee about my son’s stay at an inpatient facility. She shared that her grandson has autism and is nonverbal. We connected over our shared experiences, and I requested to pray for her and her grandson, Kelvin. It was a beautiful moment—a reminder that we’re all navigating our own battles.

What I’m Learning

  1. Kindness is Contagious: Little acts of kindness, like complimenting a bathroom attendant or sharing a laugh with a stranger, can create ripples of positivity.
  2. Embrace Vulnerability: Sharing my struggles doesn’t make me weak; it connects me to others.
  3. Accept Help: Sometimes, accepting kindness is the best way to honor it.
  4. Pray for Growth: Whether it’s for enemies or friends, prayer is a tool for growth—not just for them, but for me too.
  5. Celebrate the Good: Focus on the wins, no matter how small, and let go of the grudges.

So, as I continue on this journey of spreading positivity, I’m learning that laughter and kindness can light the way, even when the road gets bumpy. Life is too short to take it seriously all the time, so let’s choose joy, embrace the absurd, and pray for our enemies—because, let’s be honest, they need it more than we do!

Thank you for joining me on this journey! I hope you found a nugget of wisdom or a spark of joy in my adventures. Remember, kindness often leads to unexpected blessings, so let’s keep spreading positivity together. Have a fantastic evening! 🌟