Facing your fears

I had the joy of taking my young daughter to meet Santa the other day. She showed signs of fear and apprehension. When I pointed out traits that were similar to hers, or perhaps taken as , she wanted to investigate.

“Santa is over there alone, we should go say hi. He seems nice.”

“Santa nice.” She said as she nodded.

Initially, she remained hesitant and shy. I pointed out his fluffy suit. “I bet it’s soft!”

“Santa soft.” Still nodding.

“Do you want to go say hi?”

She replied, “no.” I respected her answer. I continued pointing out the positive aspects of the environment.

“Look how nice the snowman is!”

After about 10 minutes of observation and provision, the response of earlier stated question, was, “yes.”

When we endeavored Sankt Niklaus, I did it slowly and respectfully, for Pipsqueak’s sake. I made sure she was approbatory to our ascension to the Zanesville sector of North Pole. She was cautiously optimistic.

As we got closer, we sat down beside him, but I held her tightly in the safety of my scrawny, flimsy arms.

I don’t know about this, but mommy loves me and I know she’ll keep me safe…

I pointed out that he has 2 eyes, ears, a mouth, and a nose. I asked her,

“Does Santa have a nose?”

Yes mommy, he has a nose. Gosh… it’s right there.

Before I knew it, she offered her baby to hug Santa.

If my baby approves, maybe he’s not a villain.

Well, if my baby thinks he’s not a villain, maybe he’s ok… hmmmm

Moments later, she was flashing her charismatic smile.

I think I have a case of the ‘feel goods.’

I’m diggin it… I’m diggin it…

The moral of the story is…

The Pause/Proceed with Caution strategy is well understood by the name itself, is a solidity strategy that occurs when there is a pause to review the environmental conditions before advancing further into the situation. This also means that it’s important to not jump to conclusions without obtaining the factual knowledge.

If there is ever a situation that you feel the need to come to a conclusion prematurely, without sufficient thought or on incomplete evidence:

Stop. Think. Rationally evaluate.


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2 thoughts on “Facing your fears

  1. You did such an amazing job with her. You are so amazing with kids and full of knowledge. Most parents would probably just force their kid onto Santa’s lap and get a picture of them screaming. 😂 I was always deeply afraid of Santa… still not a big fan of the guys in those costumes, too close to clowns. 😬

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    1. I enjoy every moment I have with my Pipsqueak! It has a lot to do with the research I have done over the course of my motherhood re: RIE parenting, respecting the child’s emotion and personality. I embraced it with my older 2 and became accustomed to it. 🙂 its all about the ditty that chic Aretha Franklin made 🙂 R-E-S-P-E-C-T💜

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