Maturity starts when drama ends 💯

I really don’t understand how someone can be so unhappy and unsatisfied with their own life that they have to create drama to become noticed. If you’re reading this and feel the need to post something on social media stating you’re offended, I’m writing about you.

Arguing just to argue is bullying, it’s simply you demanding your point to be heard and not being open to listen and learn from others. 

‘Cluster B’ personality disorders:

They are characterized by dramatic, over-emotional, or unpredictable (erratic) thinking or behavior. The Cluster B personality disorders are also the most common of the personality disorders described in DSM-5.

There are 4 types of ‘cluster B’ personalities:

  1. Antisocial
  2. Borderline
  3. Narcissistic
  4. Histrionic

I know quite a bit about Borderline Personality Disorder and have been diagnosed with it. I have found DBT (as previously mentioned) to be a very helpful- it has been a miracle to me. As far as overly-dramatic personalities, it appears they line up with Narcissistic and Histrionics Personality Disorder, actually, without the right coping mechanisms, they can all be overly-dramatic.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

An inflated sense of self-importance is the key feature of narcissistic personality disorder. People with narcissistic personality disorder often believe that they’re “special,” more important than other people, and entitled to special treatment. They require excessive attention, take advantage of others, lack empathy, and are described by others as arrogant. People with narcissistic personality disorder also exaggerate their achievements and fantasize about being powerful, attractive, and successful. ***They have no interest in others’ feelings and needs, but they do have unreasonable expectations of what others should do for them. Sometimes they envy others, but they often believe that they are envied.

Histrionic Personality Disorder:

The central features of histrionic personality disorder are intense, dramatic expressions of emotion that shift rapidly and excessive, attention-seeking behavior. ***People with histrionic personality disorder constantly seek out attention and are uncomfortable when others are receiving it. They may often engage in dramatic, seductive, or sexually provocative behavior or use their physical appearance to draw attention to themselves. ***Additional features of people with histrionic personality disorder include:

  • Relationships that are not as strong as the person thinks they are
  • Shallow, rapidly shifting emotions
  • Strong, dramatic statements of opinion
  • The tendency to be easily influenced by others

Constant drama is not only emotionally draining to the person creating it, but to anyone associated with the person.

Signs that you are dealing with a highly dramatic person:

  • The person has the capacity to make the smallest issues into a major event.
  • The person usually dominates every conversation.
  • When the person does withdraw, they do it in a very attention grabbing way that manages to focus all energy toward them.
  • They seem to always be on stage or putting on a performance.
  • They find it easier to see the negative than the positive.
  • They have a way of speaking to people that creates tension.

Most importantly, don’t get caught up in the drama. Take a step back so you can see things clearly.

Borderline Personality Disorder:

BPD is associated with specific problems in interpersonal relationships, self-image, emotions, behaviors, and thinking. People with BPD tend to have unstable, intense relationships with conflict, many arguments, and frequent break-ups. They fear being abandoned. They often have a negative image of themselves, and they report many “ups and downs” in how they feel about themselves. They may say they feel as if they’re on an emotional roller coaster with very quick shifts in mood, such as going from feeling okay to feeling depressed within a few minutes. ***People with BPD often engage in risky behaviors, such as going on shopping sprees, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol or abusing drugs, engaging in promiscuous sex,binge eating, or self-harming (for example, cutting themselves or threatening or attempting suicide).

Antisocial Personality Disorder:

According to DSM-5, antisocial personality disorder is a “pervasive pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others that begins in early childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood.” ***People with antisocial personality disorder have been described as lacking empathy, which is the ability to “put yourself in someone else’s shoes” in order to understand their feelings. ***They often act irresponsibly, lie, steal, or repeatedly break the law. Antisocial personality disorder is also linked to impulsive behavior, aggression (such as repeated physical assaults), disregard for one’s own or others’ safety, irresponsible behavior, and lack of remorse.

Sources:

Kristalyn Salters-Pedneault, PhD | Reviewed by Steven Gans, MD. “What You Should Know About the Cluster B Personality Disorders.” Verywell, http://www.verywell.com/the-cluster-b-personality-disorders-425429.

Chapman, Alexander L. “Dialectical Behavior Therapy: Current Indications and Unique Elements.” Psychiatry (Edgmont), Matrix Medical Communications, Sept. 2006, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2963469/.

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