That quote from Joyce Meyer has really spoke to me. I have had quite a bit of difficult trials in my life, And I haven’t necessarily handled all of them well, let’s be honest, I’ve handled almost all of them incorrectly.But what I can say is, I’m learning. I’m learning how to cope with stressors, I’m learning how to accept responsibility for my faults, and I’m learning to celebrate my victories.I’m going to share with you some things that I have learned:
•God is with me and is in control. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Reminders of what we are to practice every single day.
Get in touch with your defense mechanisms:
(A defense mechanism is an unconscious psychological mechanism that reduces anxiety arising from unacceptable or potentially harmful stimuli.)
•Altruism: it’s easier to reduce your defenses by, not only accepting fault, but showing others how you are conquering your struggles. Not only am I accepting responsibility for my mistakes with you right now, but I’m trying to help you not make the same mistakes I have 😊
•Distractions: (albeit temporary relief) temporarily focus your attention towards something less threatening. Something my mom has helped me to do is watch “Oprah’s Master Class”. Oprah’s Master Class is an unprecedented look into the minds of modern masters making a unique impact on the world and the lessons they’ve learned along the way. Another good show she has got me into is Ellen. I mean, come on. She’s funny. 😝
Any rational, conscious effort that a person takes towards making their life more positive can be considered mature coping.
•Another way to avoid our defense mechanism is, when you hear something you don’t necessarily want to hear, respond respectfully: “I respect you feel that way.” Sometimes I follow it up with, “but I feel differently” or, “I understand what you’re saying” or, “.”(nothing)
•Becoming more aware of your own values and how those values correspond to your community’s moral sensibilities, and to your own actions. Your values are the principles you believe in and have invested in (which is why they are said to have “value” in the first place). Values are the goals towards which you aspire. They largely define the core of your identity. More importantly still, they are the source of your motivation to improve yourself. If you did not value self-improvement, for example, you would not be reading this blog right now. Follow up with my blog “Celebrate you” 1 and 2 😊
• List out what you value, what you want from life and how you want to live. Also list out what you think you’re supposed to want, and what other people who are important to you want for you.Look for two sorts of discrepancies:
• Discrepancies between what you want and what society wants,
• Discrepancies between what you want and where you’re actually at.
Message me if you don’t necessarily understand what I’m saying 🙂 I have an open ear, mind, and heart. 💜Good luck 👍🍀