Key Component of Addiction Treatment

Someone who’s hiding something may get overly defensive when asked about a schedule or the night’s activities. Keep this in mind as you judge between normal teenage behavior and signs your loved one might be using drugs or alcohol.

No single item or even several of them indicate a secret alcoholic for certain. However, these are common subtle signs that someone may have a pre-occupation with or over-reliance on alcohol. Alcoholism is a disease that does not go away, however it can be treated.

If you suspect someone you love may have a problem with alcohol, look for ways to get help. There are many resources for family members affected by alcohol such as Al-anon.

Here are 14 signs that can indicate a secret alcoholic:

1. Secret Drinking – Drinking alone or before or after going out. Talk of “getting ready to go out” which involves having drinks before going to an event. As alcohol use increases regularly, a person needs more to get the same effect. So the secret alcoholic often drinks before or after going to events involving alcohol to be at the same level as friends.

2. Hiding – Not only will the secret alcoholic drink secretly, they will frequently have hiding places for alcohol. If you suspect someone of being a secret alcoholic, look for full or empty bottles of alcohol. Common hiding places are bathroom cabinets and shelves (often top shelves), in garages, in closets, clothes, bags and suitcases and in kitchen cabinets hidden behind other cans, jars and boxes. Empty bottles may be found under furniture and in cushions. Also look in outside garbage and recycling bins. Do you notice trash being mysteriously taken out?

3. Vodka Becoming Preferred Drink – Vodka is often the preferred choice for secret alcoholics because it is colorless and fairly odorless so it can be added to many beverages without being noticed. Generally the only way to determine if vodka has been added to a beverage is to taste it. Also, look for vodka on store receipts, or someone switching to vodka as their preferred alcohol choice.

4. Missing/Being Late for Important Events or Having Unexpected Absences– Increasingly the person misses or is late for important appointments, work, school and family events. The secret alcoholic may disappear for periods of time, or may claim to be somewhere they are not. They frequently need to go on a variety of “errands”.

5. Making Excuses to Drink – Frequently stating and actually following through on: “I need a drink”. They will also become defensive when someone discusses their drinking or will give their “reasons for drinking” with little prompting.

6. Drinking at Inappropriate Times – You may notice drinking in the morning, even upon waking. Alcohol added to morning coffee or juice. Or drinking a large amount of alcohol at lunch or early afternoon.

7. Increased Isolation, Loss of Interest – As alcohol becomes more of a focus for the alcoholic, they tend to ignore other areas of their life. They may avoid people in order to hide their drinking, refusing to attend outings or gatherings with family and friends. They also may lose interest in things they once loved or enjoyed.

8. Frequent Mood Swings – Alcohol use and withdrawal affects a person’s mood and thinking. Sudden outbursts, intense rage, depression and sadness are common.

9. Physical Symptoms – Trembling hands, flushed face and red or blotchy skin are common.

10. Memory Loss and Blackouts – Forgetting certain events or facts or completely failing to remember portions of time.

11. Over-focus on alcohol – Instead of focusing on who will be at an event or where it is, the secret alcoholic will often dwell on what and when they can drink, instead of simply enjoying socializing.

12. Drinking Quickly or Chugging – Secret alcoholics will often chug or quickly drink their first few drinks.

13. Drinking rituals – Always drinking at certain times (immediately when getting home from work, always before dinner) or in certain places. The mark of a secret alcoholic is that they NEED to keep their ritual of drinking. They become upset or cannot cope when their ritual is disrupted.

14. Missing valuables – Addictions end up being expensive. Sometimes in order to hide the amount of money being spent on alcohol, the secret alcoholic will take money or valuables.

Reference: New Hope Recovery Center